As I thought about the five languages of love, I thought about how it teaches people what they ‘need’ and trains people how to ‘fulfill’ those needs. That is NOT in the bible at all.

Love is not a feeling that we experience when someone fulfills our needs. Love is God. God is love, and we’re not called to be catering to others to make sure they’re happy, they feel wanted, they’re okay. No, we’re called to become love and to love without receiving in return from any one.

If we truly grab hold of God’s truth, we receive all we need from Him, and a relationship or marriage creates a union which brings glory to God, not about “what you can do for me” and “since you didn’t do THAT, I don’t feel love.” It’s all very confusing to me. We all have the opportunity to love without expecting.

I have a friend, who’s marriage isn’t exactly godly or perfect. As we were talking, she was describing how she doesn’t experience love at all from her spouse but how she wanted to love him fully through God’s heart, before throwing in the towel. She admitted she hadn’t been loving her husband well at all and had actually been praying for him through pain and not love. I told her what a beautiful opportunity she had.

I went on to explain to her how she will have the chance to love without expecting to receive anything at all in return. It’s the way we should all be living our lives: becoming love…becoming in His image.

I don’t want your time, your gifts, your acts of service, your time, your encouragement, your touch. No, I want and have Jesus. He’s the very act of love; God is love; and He pours His love into us through His Holy Spirit. It’s not about “us.” It’s about Him, and it’s about being love everywhere we go!